Welcome all you Lesbian, Gay, Transgender, Straight, (whatever you may want to call yourself) people out there.
I wanted to bring up a subject that I've heard a lot about recently. Some people have very strong opinions about the subject of Bisexuals and there are a lot of assumptions standing in the way of seeing what Bisexuality really is. It doesn't matter what label you feel comfortable giving yourself because in the end we are all just a shit ton of labels.
First is the question: What is Bisexuality? The answer is in the fucking title. A person who is a Bisexual falls in love with either gender. Does that mean they have to like both boys and girls exactly to the same extent... absolutely not! It means that a specific person is attracted to select people of both genders. I think people need to stop thinking of Bisexual, Lesbian/gay, and Straight in such narrow terms. Really it's more of a sliding grey scale. This should help all you poor confused label eaters.
Bisexual
Super Straight 1---------------------5------------------- 10 Super Gay
Here's your new scale. Don't mind the numbers, they just help to understand better. I am a lesbian. However, am I a 10. No. I'm more like a 9.8. But... wait... doesn't that make me a bisexual?
FUCK NO!
This makes me a lesbian with a one in a TRILLION chance of randomly finding a guy I fancy and have romantic feelings for. I am pretty exclusively attracted to women. There has been one man in my entire life that I've had sexual feelings for and that did not equal to romantic feelings. It's never happened again!
This scale shows that the closer to the center you are the more obvious these feelings for both sexes becomes. I feel that the people who are closer to a specific side can & have developed preferences (based on experiences) allowing them to lean more towards the same or opposite sex. (And yes, some of these experiences are pressure, and stereotype based.)
These people in the middle are our beloved bisexuals! Those people who openly admit to who they have feelings for and don't let social pressure stop them from loving and being happy!
So... Back to the actual topic at hand... BI-SHAMING!
and all it's shitty shit!
OK. Now in a world becoming more and more open to it's people and who they are, why are we (THOSE SAME PEOPLE FIGHTING TO BE UNDERSTOOD) stepping on people similar to ourselves? I really think this comes from all of the assumptions, misconceptions and the few people we've all run into who are just slutty sluts! The idea that a bisexual sleeps around comes from the idea that because they are attracted to both sides they must be attracted to twice as many people. With that much opportunity they would (theoretically) have more people they'd want to sleep with. But this idea is a flawed one. We perceive it this way because of the amountof people we are attracted to. WE assume this is normal and with the idea that we are looking for (either a man or a woman) this relates to a gender. So this % gets confused with a specific gender. So lets just say (even if only slightly) I'm physically attracted to 10% of the women I come across. ... but then I think of a bisexual person and add the second gender... an easy assumption would be 10% of women and 10% of men... let me do math ( dada do la lada bo da) ok simplifying it... it goes from 10% attraction to all people for straight and lesbian/gay to 20% for Bisexuals. This... is an extremely flawed assumption and just as offensive as someone assuming that because I'm a lesbian I am attracted to all women. It's absurd and we need to stop treating eachother like this.
I also hate the assumption that because a person is bisexual that they are will get tired of one gender and leave the person they're with because they're missing dick... or something along those lines. This continues the stereotypes that bisexuals are promiscuous and slutty fucks who don't give a shit about the people they are with... just whats between their legs.
(A great example of a true to herself bisexual is Rosie Spaughton. Look this babe up on Youtube.
When it comes to love, it doesn't matter who Rosie COULD be attracted to
because she's IN LOVE with Rose!
and that's the only thing she cares about.)
For your convenience I am going to make a list
of some crap that needs to change.
- Bisexuals being thought of as Slutty Mc Slut faces.
- Assuming bisexuals are confused.
- Insisting bisexuals will get bored with your genitals and leave you for the opposite sex.
- Negating the fact that bisexuals not only exist but actually can fall fully in love with ONE person.
- Fathoming that bisexuals will fall in love with anyone and everyone.
- Forgetting that this group of people are part of our world and they (just like anyone else) want to find their soul-mate!
Do you know what bisexuals want you to know?
That while they don't care what hangs out between your legs
they DO care what you Allow to hang out between your years
(in your brain!)
And so do I.
